I walked out into the main foyer area with my 8 week old in my arms and before I even had a chance to fix my eyes on where I wanted to go (which was usually heading straight for the door), she came running towards me.
“Ohhhh my gosh girl, when did you have a baby?” (1st question and she didn’t even ask if the baby was mine, obviously she knew.
“Girl when did you have a baby?” (2nd Questions, this should tell you, me and this lady are not friends like that)
“When did you get married, I didn’t know” (3rd question
As my mother would say, “BUSY BODY”
Now as I continued smiling, well actually grinding teeth for what seemed like days, I thought about the 2 options I had:
1) let her think I was actually married and start some lie of a story
2) tell her I wasn’t married and then take it from there
Clearly, option 1 was the easiest and would save time, especially as this lady was already beginning to irritate me. She was doing the usual making baby googy eyes with the baby and at some point she opened her arms for what was either her wanting the baby to jump into her arms or for me to pass her the baby.
I smiled and went with option 2 as I wiped the dribble from my baby’s mouth.
“I’m not married, she 8 weeks now”
“Ohhh wow”, she said, with what was the most confused face I had ever seen. Like seriously, surely she knew it was biologically possible to get pregnant without marriage and it was even spiritually possible to get pregnant whilst still being a virgin (Aunty Mary), so why was her confused plus sarcastic expression pretending like she couldn’t understand
She fully well know the deal and she judged me, but it’s cool….
“You look good anyway” – what the heck does that mean! Clearly I didn’t say that to her, but it was definitely a thought.
I continued smiling.
Congratulations, she said grudgingly, – Obviously I didn’t deserve a congratulations. Congratulations were only meant for mothers who had actually got married before having children, not unwed sinful mothers.
Some people can be so insensitive, clueless, obvious, rude and the list goes on. But you must constantly remember where your sounding board comes from, who you are listening to and who’s opinions matter!